20 Things to Avoid Doing in Japan
I recently spent six weeks solo traveling through Japan and absolutely loved being immersed in the culture. But I won’t lie — I’ve never been to a country with such a complex and nuanced etiquette! I felt like I was walking on eggshells every day, carefully thinking through every move so I wouldn’t accidentally offend someone. Each day was a mix of minor awkward moments and important lessons I learned. So here I am, sharing my top 20 lessons (aka cultural “don’ts”) that I picked up along the way. Keep in mind, Japan isn’t monolithic — each region and prefecture has its own unique customs, and some of these “rules” might feel more relaxed in fast-paced, modern Tokyo. What do you think — did I miss anything?
- Ilma
1. Don’t Wear Sunglasses 😎
When I first arrived in Japan, I didn’t think twice about throwing on a pair of sunglasses. After all, they’re a staple for sunny days, right? But I quickly learned that in Japan, sunglasses aren’t as common as you’d think — and can even be seen as suspicious or out of place in certain settings.
In Japanese culture, maintaining eye contact and being “seen” clearly is important for communication and trust. Sunglasses, which hide your eyes, can give off an aloof or even shady vibe, especially in formal or public spaces. While they’re totally fine for beaches or hiking trips, wearing them around town or in restaurants can make you look like you’re trying to hide something — and that’s not the impression you want to give!
So, unless you’re at the beach or hiking up Mt. Fuji, leave the shades behind and embrace the local vibe. Your eyes — and your authenticity — will thank you.
2. Don’t Be Loud — or Even Medium-Level Loud 📣
In Japan, maintaining a calm and quiet demeanor in public spaces is key. Loud conversations, boisterous laughter, or even talking on the phone in public transportation are considered disruptive and impolite. Talking across the room in restaurants or cafes can also feel intrusive, as does watching videos or listening to music without headphones in shared spaces. Instead, speak softly, use your headphones, and respect the peaceful atmosphere around you. Additionally, remember to think small and avoid taking up too much space — this is an important part of Japanese etiquette and shows your respect for the people around you.
3. Don’t Be Scared of the Bidet Toilet 🚽
Yes, the futuristic-looking bidet toilet can be intimidating at first, but it’s a delightful part of Japanese bathroom culture! Don’t shy away — embrace the experience. Most bidet toilets have buttons to adjust water pressure, temperature, and even a warm-air drying feature, making it feel like a personal spa moment. It’s not just functional; it’s delightfully pleasant and leaves you feeling refreshed and pampered. So go ahead, push that button — your bottom will thank you!
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4. Don’t Hand Cash Directly; Place It on a Tray 💴
When making a purchase, it’s customary in Japan to place your cash or card on a small tray rather than handing it directly to the cashier. This polite gesture avoids any awkwardness and respects the personal space of others. Cashiers will return your change or card on the same tray — a small detail that reflects the country’s emphasis on courtesy and respect.
5. Don’t Tip 👛
Tipping is not part of Japanese culture and can actually be seen as rude or uncomfortable. In Japan, excellent service is simply the standard — it’s an expression of pride and professionalism, not something to be rewarded with extra cash. Offering a tip might even be seen as implying that the server is your subordinate, rather than an equal who honors their work. A sincere “arigatou gozaimasu” (thank you very much) is the best way to show your appreciation and respect.
6. Don’t Jaywalk or Walk on Red 🚷
In Japan, following rules isn’t just a suggestion — it’s a cultural value deeply rooted in respect and social harmony. Pedestrians almost always wait for the green light, even if there’s no traffic in sight. Jaywalking or walking on red is seen as disruptive and inconsiderate. This strong sense of order and discipline can be traced back to the country’s history as a nation of soldiers and samurai, where adherence to rules was a matter of honor and unity. So, even if it feels like an eternity to wait at an empty crosswalk, resist the urge to cross early. Honor the unspoken code and show respect for the culture’s deep-rooted commitment to harmony.
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7. Don’t Stand Up Chopsticks 🥢
Never leave your chopsticks standing upright in a bowl of rice — it’s a symbol associated with funerals and offerings to the deceased in Japan. Doing so can be seen as disrespectful and can quickly make your dining companions uncomfortable. Instead, rest your chopsticks on the holder or across the bowl when you’re not using them. This small gesture goes a long way in showing cultural awareness and respect for tradition.
8. Don’t Be Late — Be Very Punctual ⏳
In Japan, punctuality isn’t just polite — it’s expected. Whether it’s a business meeting, dinner reservation, or casual meetup, being on time shows respect for others and is a reflection of your reliability. Arriving even a few minutes late can be seen as disrespectful or inconsiderate. So plan ahead, account for travel time, and aim to arrive early. It’s one of the simplest ways to show you value and honor your commitments.
9. Don’t Just Rely on Credit Cards; Always Have Cash💰
While Japan is known for its modern conveniences, cash is still king — even in bustling cities like Tokyo. Many restaurants, especially charming mom-and-pop eateries, prefer or only accept cash. I found myself needing cash even on the main strip in Tokyo — it’s a common surprise for travelers. So plan ahead: grab some yen at the airport or a convenience store ATM so you can eat, explore, and embrace local gems without the panic of realizing it’s cash-only!
10. Don’t Walk and Talk or Text on the Phone 📱
In Japan, it’s considered poor manners to walk while talking on the phone or texting. It’s seen as disruptive and inconsiderate to those around you. Instead, find a quiet corner or step to the side before you make a call or send a message. You’ll notice locals doing this everywhere — it’s a small gesture that shows respect for shared spaces and helps keep the flow of crowded streets and trains smooth.
11. Don’t Wear Your Skimpy Short Shorts 🩳
While Japan’s fashion scene is vibrant and creative, ultra-skimpy short shorts can raise eyebrows — especially in temples, shrines, or traditional settings. Even on a hot summer day, many women in Japan dress conservatively, wearing clothes that fully cover their arms and legs. You’ll also notice a preference for loose, flowing clothing that balances comfort and modesty. Wearing overly revealing clothes can stand out and be seen as disrespectful, particularly in cultural or sacred spaces. So, while it’s tempting to stay cool, opt for a more modest and stylish look that honors local customs and keeps you feeling comfortable and respectful.
12. Don’t Walk Into a Dressing Room with Shoes On 👟
When trying on clothes in Japan, always remember to remove your shoes before stepping into the dressing room. Many stores provide a small mat or slippers at the entrance to keep the space clean and respectful. It’s a small but important cultural courtesy that shows you honor their attention to cleanliness and care. You might also be offered a face cover — a thin hood or mask to protect the clothes from makeup smudges. So slip off your shoes, use the provided face cover, and embrace this unique and thoughtful touch in the shopping experience!
13. Don’t Enter the Train Until Everyone Exits First 🚞
In Japan, train etiquette is a well-practiced dance of respect and efficiency. Always wait for passengers to exit the train completely before you board. Crowding the door or rushing in is seen as rude and disrupts the smooth flow of busy commutes. Step to the side of the doors, let others off, and then board calmly and in order. It’s a small gesture, but one that says a lot about your respect for Japanese culture and the people around you.
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14. Don’t Try to Be an Individual and Stand Out 🌾🍚
Japanese culture places a high value on community harmony and fitting in, which can feel very different from the Western ideal of “standing out.” This collective mindset is often called the “wheat vs. rice” theory: in rice cultures like Japan, group harmony and cooperation are prized, whereas wheat cultures (like in the West) celebrate individuality. Trying too hard to stand out with loud behavior, flashy clothes, or overt self-promotion can feel out of place or even be seen as disrespectful. Instead, embrace the group spirit and honor the unspoken harmony that makes Japanese culture so unique.
15. Don’t Show Off Your Tattoos 🎨
In Japan, tattoos still carry strong associations with the yakuza (organized crime), and many traditional public spaces — especially onsens (hot springs), gyms, and pools — ban them altogether. Even though attitudes are slowly changing, it’s still best to cover up your tattoos to avoid making others uncomfortable or being denied entry. If you plan to visit an onsen, consider buying small tattoo covers or wearing a rash guard to respectfully blend in. Many convenience stores and online shops sell tattoo cover stickers, making it easy to enjoy your experience while honoring local customs.
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16. Don’t Blow Your Nose in Public 🤧
Blowing your nose loudly in public is considered rude in Japan, especially in quiet spaces like trains or restaurants. Instead, excuse yourself to a restroom or a more private space if you need to clear your nose. If you’re just sniffling, most locals prefer to discreetly dab with a tissue or handkerchief rather than making a show of it.
17. Don’t Point at People or Things 👉🏼
Pointing directly at someone or something can feel aggressive or impolite in Japan. Instead, gesture gently with your whole hand or use a subtle nod to indicate what you’re talking about.
18. Don’t Wear Perfume — or Keep It Minimal 👃🏼
In Japan, strong scents — even pleasant ones — are generally avoided in public spaces. Wearing a heavy perfume or cologne can feel intrusive, especially in close quarters like trains, restaurants, or offices. While a hint of a subtle, clean scent is fine, it’s best to limit or avoid perfumes altogether. This small adjustment shows respect for the cultural emphasis on maintaining harmony and not imposing your presence on others.
19. Don’t Walk and Eat 🍡 — or Even Sip Your Starbucks Coffee ☕️
In Japan, it’s considered bad manners to walk around while eating or drinking. You’ll rarely see locals strolling with a coffee or snack in hand. Even sipping your Starbucks coffee on the go can seem out of place and inattentive to the shared space. Instead, find a quiet spot — a bench, a park, or even stand beside the food stall — and enjoy your meal or drink before moving on. Not only is this more respectful, but it also lets you savor every bite (and sip) without distractions.
20. Don’t Forget to Try New Foods! 🍣
One of the best parts of visiting Japan is the incredible variety of local dishes and seasonal flavors. From sushi and ramen to tiny street-side treats, don’t be afraid to dive in and try something new. Whether it’s takoyaki (octopus balls) or a seasonal matcha dessert, you might just discover a new favorite — and it’s all part of the adventure! If you’re feeling extra adventurous, wear my Don’t Ration Passion™ shirt and check off each new food you conquer — it’s like a culinary bucket list built into your outfit!
